Relationship Counseling & Psychotherapy
Relationships, Partnerships & Polycules
Whether you are a party of two or a vibrant polycule, we believe that every relationship deserves a customized toolkit. We don’t do "one-size-fits-all" relationship advice. Instead, we help you navigate the unique dynamics of your chosen family.
Because Love Doesn’t Have a "Default Setting"
In a world that often tries to tell us who to love and how to love them, choosing to build a relationship on your own terms is a radical act. Whether you are a monogamous couple, a triad, or a complex web of partners, your relationships deserve a space where they are celebrated.
At Calming Tides Therapy we provide that brave space for queer, trans, and intersectional folks to work through the messy, beautiful parts of being together.
The Gottman Method: Adapted for Modern Love
We use the Gottman Method—a world-renowned, research-based approach—to help you strengthen your connection. But we do it with a twist. Traditional relationship therapy can sometimes feel a bit heteronormative, so we’ve deconstructed it to fit your relationship style.
Monogamous Partnerships: Helping you deepen your "Love Maps," manage conflict without the sting, and keep the spark alive through all of life’s transitions.
Poly & Ethical Nonmonogamy Dynamics: We provide a knowledgeable space for polyamorous, open, and ethically non-monogamous folks. We help with "polynavigating," boundary-setting, managing jealousy, and ensuring everyone’s needs are heard and honored.
Communicate with the Heart
Learn how to have the "hard talks" without criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling interrupting.
Conflict Repair
We view conflict not as a sign of failure, but as a signal that your relationship is ready to build a deeper, more honest foundation. We move you past the cycle of "winning and losing" to focus on active repair rituals that turn your toughest disagreements into bridges for connection.
Exploring polyamory and other relationship structures
Expanding your relationship structure is a journey of intentional design that requires moving beyond old scripts and into radical honesty. We help you navigate the "opening up" process by building a solid framework for boundaries, communication, and security, ensuring that every partner feels seen and supported as your connection evolves.
Love Languages & Attachment
Identify you and your partner(s) Love Languages and Attachment Patterns as a starting point. This allows you all to have an understanding of how we each show and receive love and avoid trauma responses to show in response to attachment, abandonment and past wounds.
Trauma of Betrayal and Infidelity
Navigating the aftermath of a betrayal is about more than just addressing the hurt; it’s about stabilizing your nervous system and reclaiming a sense of safety within your own story. We provide a steady, non-judgmental space to process the trauma of infidelity, helping you move from the initial shock toward a place of honest accountability and clear-headed decisions for the future.
Sex-affirming & and kink-affirming Sex Therapy
We believe that a vibrant, fulfilling sex life is rooted in agency and the freedom to explore your desires without the weight of shame or societal norms. Whether you are navigating changes in intimacy, exploring kink, or aligning your sexual expression with your gender journey, we provide a celebratory space to deepen your connection to pleasure and your partners.
